Marked For Death: Battered Wife Syndrome, Drug Addiction, And It’s Perpetuating Cycle When Clinical Support Is Absent

The night began with a card game as a group of cousins and a couple of friends engaged in a weekend past-time. The atmosphere was reminiscent of urban culture with drugs and alcohol being part of the festivities, but for this group it was an all too familiar scene. The only problem is that no one in attendance that night had any idea of the horrific tragedy that would soon come just hours later. They played well into the early morning hours until fatigue began to settle in on the weary, sleepy, and intoxicated crowd. Soon many would be dropped off at their homes, because they either didn’t have transportation or were well under the influence and unable to make it home on their own. The car would stop at a home in the Popular Grove section of West Baltimore to drop off one of the female cousins, as she got out, a male friend began to exit the vehicle also. She turns to him and asked “where are you going?” He tells her I’m coming with you, and she tells him I’m too tired right now, you better let them take you home while you have a ride. So, he gets back into the car and was eventually dropped off at the apartment he shared with his girlfriend in Northwest Baltimore. The guy was no stranger to the woman as he knew her from her teen years and was a frequent visitor to her home where she lived with her father. In fact, he was like family to the woman and many of her cousins. He also had a serious infatuation with the woman that was commonly known within her family and friends. For some unknown reason, that night when he entered his apartment he decided that he would go back to the woman’s home anyway. His girlfriend was fast asleep, and he grab the keys to her truck and drove back to Popular Grove. Many still have questions and doubts pertaining to the details of what happened, but police say the man entered the woman’s home through a rear window of the home that was left ajar, grabbed a butcher’s knife, began cutting telephone wire from the wall, and proceeded upstairs in the home. The man would encounter the woman’s 88 year old father who had been awaken by peculiar noises downstairs. Cops say the man began to repeatedly stab the elder man viciously, while he called out to his daughter for help. She heard the desperate screams for help coming from her father, startled by the commotion, she was hesitant to open the door of her bed room. When she mustard enough courage to open the door and look out, she saw her long time friend briskly walking toward her bedroom. She tried to lock him out but he was able to bust the door down. Once inside she tells cops he began beating her about the head with a telephone. Some how the woman was able to break free and run downstairs, try to call 911, and even get out of the backdoor of her home. The man was in close pursuit and accosted her while viciously stabbing her multiple times about the head, throat, and torso. The woman told police that he stabbed her so many times that she began to lay lifelessly, acting as if she was dead to get him to stop stabbing her. While she laid there playing dead she described the man’s actions by saying, “he just kept putting the knife in me. He kept stabbing and stabbing me.” Assuming he had killed her, he began moving about the home trying to clean up the bloody horror scene, and left the home thinking that the carnage he left behind was the woman and her father both dead. However, neither had died and the woman was able to crawl out her front door to get help from her neighbors. When cops arrived she was able to name her attacker and give them his home address. Her father had gone into cardiac arrest, was revived, but his heart stopped beating again, and he died while in transport to the hospital. The man would arrive back home a short time later where he changed his bloodied clothing, got on a bicycle and road back to the scene of the brutal attack. When cops began questioning neighbors, naming the man as a suspect, they pointed him out sitting on a bike among the spectators that had gathered outside of the home. He was wearing the same shoes he wore when he committed the vicious attack on the woman and her father. He would eventually be convicted, but the horrific ordeal that took the life of her father along with her wombs, and her own near death experience has changed her life for ever. Sadly, the woman depicted as a victim in this true story just so happens to be a member of my family. Her story along with other horrible tales related to the brutalization on women, perhaps is the foundation from which my quest to highlight and champion the cause of victims in such brutal crimes has me now centered on a global stage for crime blogging. Many psychologist say that victims of such heinous brutality should seek at the minimum, counseling for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Unfortunately, in her case this never transpired. Like most victims who fail to seek clinical assistance, a cycle of substance abuse, and a seemingly immunity to domestic violence develops and handcuffs them, and now permeates their lives in social relationships with battery becoming a revolving door and a way of life. Many of these woman relive physical abuse at the hands of violent men who also possess drug addiction, and other social dynamic deficiencies. The road which leads to escape from domestic violence in many cases often times never occurs, and many victims either end up dead or incarcerated for killing their attackers. The key to end domestic violence is family support, counseling, and filing police reports to have the abuser charged criminally. The onset of domestic abuse has sparked a revolution in state legislation across the nation to combat violent offenders and the brutality they inflict upon their victims. In short, there are a plethora of avenues for victims to pursue to get out from under the cycle of violence that in many cases have destroyed entire families. However, the abused must have a desire to want to escape, want help, and want the violence to end. Often times the violence has a transitioning effect upon domestic violence victims, whereby they even become abusers themselves, and catapult violent relationships into a free-for-all of mutual violence being enacted upon each other. In many of these cases when individuals in couples are both substance abusers, the violence escalates, compounding an already volatile relationship which could lead to imminent tragedy. Since men are the primary aggressors in many domestic violence cases, family support for female victims is paramount. Often times just a simple surprise visit to the couple’s home could go along way to deter domestic abuse. Know the warning signs, and become proactive when female relatives began to appear with visible bruises and other signs of physical trauma. In many families men have adopted a zero tolerance for physical abuse toward the females in their families. Recently, the same family member reportedly had been observed with a black eye, and when she was confronted about it she conveyed to the family that she had accidentally given herself a black eye. This obvious denial is textbook for domestic abuse. On many occasions the family has intervened and was met with a seemingly psychotic display of support for her husband, the very individual suspected of committing the physical abuse against her. The family began to disregard the allegations of abuse against her because of a pattern of defending her husband. These situations are delicate because society’s standard is people shouldn’t mettle in the affairs of a married couple, but in my mind that’s complete bullshit. Under no circumstances what so ever should a man be allowed to physically abuse a female member of the family. This standard is a basic and rudimentary principle taught to the male child at his earliest stages of conformity. In fact, it’s a man’s innate nature to protect a female from harm of any kind. Unfortunately, there are other ignorant and uneducated females in the family who are also drug addicts, who think the subject domestic violence situation is cute, humorous, and should be kept a secret. The most disturbing aspect of the ordeal is the desired secrecy is merely predicated on preserving confidentiality of the victim who secretly told females in the family about the domestic abuse. I cannot express strongly enough how detestable such an assertion is. People would rather preserve gossip credibility rather than take proactive measures to insure the safety of a loved one. Maybe such a course of action is the most intelligent thing to do for a person who cannot get through 24 hours without the assistance of cannabis or some other narcotic, but in the mind of a sane person, insuring the physical safety of the victim is not only logical but should be the primary objective. In this case and many just like it, the abused victim is given poor advice from family and friends who lack having the abused person’ best interest at heart. Women engaged in secrecy about domestic abuse is perhaps the primary reason why such abuse occurs and is sustained for so long. As long as I am alive I will not tolerate physical abuse being inflicted upon a female member of my family despite their denials, despite the harsh criticism that comes from idiots who claim my intervention is unwarranted or wrong, and despite the inability of females in the family who lack the mental capacity to properly assess the severity of abuse, even if it kills me. So, when I recently asked a male family member who was local to our relatives home, to go by and check on her, I wasn’t butting in somebodies marriage, I was checking on a relative. Fuck assholes married to the women in my family, they are not blood. When it comes to this particular female relative, there should be zero tolerance for any violence or brutality what so ever, simply because we nearly lost her to such a volatile degree of brutality. There will always be dumb ass people in every family who will say mind your business, but such a proclamation is always easy when your not the person getting your ass whooped on a regular basis. Women subjected to domestic violence who secretly cry out for help and then subsequently turn on family who run to their aid are in fact sick, and until they have the ability to discern for themselves that they are sick and in need of professional assistance, mere prayer for a happy outcome is insufficient, and it’s the duty of her family to become a watch dog for her overall well being. I could care less what the idiots and mind yours pundits in the family say, their drug usage is indicative of the inability to properly govern their own lives, let alone even make a sound or logical judgement call on the lives of others. Until the proper treatment for PTSD or other counseling is instituted for my relative and other women just like her transpires, the perpetuating cycle of violence she now endures will continue, and without out professional help she is marked for death. Prayerful for her speedy recovery and return to us. God speed.

 

 

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The night began with a card game as a group of cousins and a couple of friends engaged in a weekend past-time. The atmosphere was reminiscent of urban culture with drugs and alcohol being part of the festivities, but for this group it was an all too familiar scene. The only problem is that no one in attendance that night had any idea of the horrific tragedy that would soon come just hours later. They played well into the early morning hours until fatigue began to settle in on the weary, sleepy, and intoxicated crowd. Soon many would be dropped off at their homes, because they either didn’t have transportation or were well under the influence and unable to make it home on their own. The car would stop at a home in the Popular Grove section of West Baltimore to drop off one of the female cousins, as she got out, a male friend began to exit the vehicle also. She turns to him and asked “where are you going?” He tells her I’m coming with you, and she tells him I’m too tired right now, you better let them take you home while you have a ride. So, he gets back into the car and was eventually dropped off at the apartment he shared with his girlfriend in Northwest Baltimore. The guy was no stranger to the woman as he knew her from her teen years and was a frequent visitor to her home where she lived with her father. In fact, he was like family to the woman and many of her cousins. He also had a serious infatuation with the woman that was commonly known within her family and friends. For some unknown reason, that night when he entered his apartment he decided that he would go back to the woman’s home anyway. His girlfriend was fast asleep, and he grab the keys to her truck and drove back to Popular Grove. Many still have questions and doubts pertaining to the details of what happened, but police say the man entered the woman’s home through a rear window of the home that was left ajar, grabbed a butcher’s knife, began cutting telephone wire from the wall, and proceeded upstairs in the home. The man would encounter the woman’s 88 year old father who had been awaken by peculiar noises downstairs. Cops say the man began to repeatedly stab the elder man viciously, while he called out to his daughter for help. She heard the desperate screams for help coming from her father, startled by the commotion, she was hesitant to open the door of her bed room. When she mustard enough courage to open the door and look out, she saw her long time friend briskly walking toward her bedroom. She tried to lock him out but he was able to bust the door down. Once inside she tells cops he began beating her about the head with a telephone. Some how the woman was able to break free and run downstairs, try to call 911, and even get out of the backdoor of her home. The man was in close pursuit and accosted her while viciously stabbing her multiple times about the head, throat, and torso. The woman told police that he stabbed her so many times that she began to lay lifelessly, acting as if she was dead to get him to stop stabbing her. While she laid there playing dead she described the man’s actions by saying, “he just kept putting the knife in me. He kept stabbing and stabbing me.” Assuming he had killed her, he began moving about the home trying to clean up the bloody horror scene, and left the home thinking that the carnage he left behind was the woman and her father both dead. However, neither had died and the woman was able to crawl out her front door to get help from her neighbors. When cops arrived she was able to name her attacker and give them his home address. Her father had gone into cardiac arrest, was revived, but his heart stopped beating again, and he died while in transport to the hospital. The man would arrive back home a short time later where he changed his bloodied clothing, got on a bicycle and road back to the scene of the brutal attack. When cops began questioning neighbors, naming the man as a suspect, they pointed him out sitting on a bike among the spectators that had gathered outside of the home. He was wearing the same shoes he wore when he committed the vicious attack on the woman and her father. He would eventually be convicted, but the horrific ordeal that took the life of her father along with her wombs, and her own near death experience has changed her life for ever. Sadly, the woman depicted as a victim in this true story just so happens to be a member of my family. Her story along with other horrible tales related to the brutalization on women, perhaps is the foundation from which my quest to highlight and champion the cause of victims in such brutal crimes has me now centered on a global stage for crime blogging. Many psychologist say that victims of such heinous brutality should seek at the minimum, counseling for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Unfortunately, in her case this never transpired. Like most victims who fail to seek clinical assistance, a cycle of substance abuse, and a seemingly immunity to domestic violence develops and handcuffs them, and now permeates their lives in social relationships with battery becoming a revolving door and a way of life. Many of these woman relive physical abuse at the hands of violent men who also possess drug addiction, and other social dynamic deficiencies. The road which leads to escape from domestic violence in many cases often times never occurs, and many victims either end up dead or incarcerated for killing their attackers. The key to end domestic violence is family support, counseling, and filing police reports to have the abuser charged criminally. The onset of domestic abuse has sparked a revolution in state legislation across the nation to combat violent offenders and the brutality they inflict upon their victims. In short, there are a plethora of avenues for victims to pursue to get out from under the cycle of violence that in many cases have destroyed entire families. However, the abused must have a desire to want to escape, want help, and want the violence to end. Often times the violence has a transitioning effect upon domestic violence victims, whereby they even become abusers themselves, and catapult violent relationships into a free-for-all of mutual violence being enacted upon each other. In many of these cases when individuals in couples are both substance abusers, the violence escalates, compounding an already volatile relationship which could lead to imminent tragedy. Since men are the primary aggressors in many domestic violence cases, family support for female victims is paramount. Often times just a simple surprise visit to the couple’s home could go along way to deter domestic abuse. Know the warning signs, and become proactive when female relatives began to appear with visible bruises and other signs of physical trauma. In many families men have adopted a zero tolerance for physical abuse toward the females in their families. Recently, the same family member reportedly had been observed with a black eye, and when she was confronted about it she conveyed to the family that she had accidentally given herself a black eye. This obvious denial is textbook for domestic abuse. On many occasions the family has intervened and was met with a seemingly psychotic display of support for her husband, the very individual suspected of committing the physical abuse against her. The family began to disregard the allegations of abuse against her because of a pattern of defending her husband. These situations are delicate because society’s standard is people shouldn’t mettle in the affairs of a married couple, but in my mind that’s complete bullshit. Under no circumstances what so ever should a man be allowed to physically abuse a female member of the family. This standard is a basic and rudimentary principle taught to the male child at his earliest stages of conformity. In fact, it’s a man’s innate nature to protect a female from harm of any kind. Unfortunately, there are other ignorant and uneducated females in the family who are also drug addicts, who think the subject domestic violence situation is cute, humorous, and should be kept a secret. The most disturbing aspect of the ordeal is the desired secrecy is merely predicated on preserving confidentiality of the victim who secretly told females in the family about the domestic abuse. I cannot express strongly enough how detestable such an assertion is. People would rather preserve gossip credibility rather than take proactive measures to insure the safety of a loved one. Maybe such a course of action is the most intelligent thing to do for a person who cannot get through 24 hours without the assistance of cannabis or some other narcotic, but in the mind of a sane person, insuring the physical safety of the victim is not only logical but should be the primary objective. In this case and many just like it, the abused victim is given poor advice from family and friends who lack having the abused person’ best interest at heart. Women engaged in secrecy about domestic abuse is perhaps the primary reason why such abuse occurs and is sustained for so long. As long as I am alive I will not tolerate physical abuse being inflicted upon a female member of my family despite their denials, despite the harsh criticism that comes from idiots who claim my intervention is unwarranted or wrong, and despite the inability of females in the family who lack the mental capacity to properly assess the severity of abuse, even if it kills me. So, when I recently asked a male family member who was local to our relatives home, to go by and check on her, I wasn’t butting in somebodies marriage, I was checking on a relative. Fuck assholes married to the women in my family, they are not blood. When it comes to this particular female relative, there should be zero tolerance for any violence or brutality what so ever, simply because we nearly lost her to such a volatile degree of brutality. There will always be dumb ass people in every family who will say mind your business, but such a proclamation is always easy when your not the person getting your ass whooped on a regular basis. Women subjected to domestic violence who secretly cry out for help and then subsequently turn on family who run to their aid are in fact sick, and until they have the ability to discern for themselves that they are sick and in need of professional assistance, mere prayer for a happy outcome is insufficient, and it’s the duty of her family to become a watch dog for her overall well being. I could care less what the idiots and mind yours pundits in the family say, their drug usage is indicative of the inability to properly govern their own lives, let alone even make a sound or logical judgement call on the lives of others. Until the proper treatment for PTSD or other counseling is instituted for my relative and other women just like her transpires, the perpetuating cycle of violence she now endures will continue, and without out professional help she is marked for death. Prayerful for her speedy recovery and return to us. God speed.

 

 

The People’s Champion

I’m David Adams

David Adams

Self proclaimed geek, Advocate for the homeless, Social Change, Crime Blogger, and mobile technology enthusiast. Recognized journalist and Human Interest Writer championing the plight of the masses whom are without a voice of their own.

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